Friendships

As a former, painfully shy, childhood introvert; it’s been an interesting journey to the aggressive friend-maker I now am. Moving to a socially, er…distant… environment like Norway was an especially exciting challenge, particularly since mere eye contact is a hard-won privilege with the average native. Most of these posts are disgustingly fluffy and positive, but if I’m feeling brave, I’ll put the fails in tool


  • Falling in love straight after your divorce (and lessons I have learned).

    Falling in love straight after your divorce (and lessons I have learned).

    It’s clickbait, guys. But it’s also true. Argh. Love. What? Why? And more please. You know the story. The ex husband and I were horribly in love, had twelve excellent years, acquired offspring, and then discovered that we were no longer in love anymore and were left scratching our heads about what to do about […]

  • Touched By a Racist (or: Norway, come ON!)

    Touched By a Racist (or: Norway, come ON!)

    My friend was eyeballs-deep in his phone when his surgeon arrived to check on his progress after his tonsil-removal surgery. The location was a small, private facility in West Oslo, surrounded upmarket department stores and chain coffee shops, while the office itself seemed a little worse-for-wear inside. Oslo seems reluctant to give up its rain […]

  • On being a loud-mouthed introvert

    On being a loud-mouthed introvert

    Whenever I tell people that I used to be a wallflower at school, they laugh loudly in my face and tell me to pull the other one. I don’t blame them (though I can secretly plan to maim them while they sleep). I’m sort of a social Christmas beetle. It’s like a social butterfly, but […]

  • Reflections on the death of one with whom I fought so much

    Reflections on the death of one with whom I fought so much

    What happens when a person with whom you fight regularly dies suddenly? Can you erase the hurt feelings and the sleepless nights? Does it all go away? It does not. Where do you put those feelings while you feel suddenly saddened by the loss of a person who you were perpetually angry with? A while ago, […]

  • Open Season on Commentary on Your Baby

    Open Season on Commentary on Your Baby

    What’s the weirdest thing anybody’s ever tried to tell you about your baby? That is, what kind of unsolicited advice have you received that’s made you say, “Huh. Thank you for telling me this. Now I know to hide behind the nearest bush when I see you coming.” I am 5 days into parenthood. But […]

  • The Speaker – Didintle Ntsie

    The Speaker – Didintle Ntsie

    This rad human is someone I’ve had the very good fortune of being acquainted with for at least 7 years. We met, initially, through the fluid madness that was Observatory in the mid 2000s – to be honest, we may have been living in the same house, but one can’t be sure of living arrangements […]